Little messy kitchens and postmodernity

This give you an idea what I did today---messed up my little apartment kitchen. Don't know if I have had a littler kitchen since Philip and I lived in Scarritt Married Student Housing---but I don't know if I ever have enjoyed messing up a kitchen more than I did today. I have begun my Christmas baking and candy making, needless to say.
Sometimes I can live with a lot of mess, and thank the Lord, here lately that is a very good thing. I have never been much of a housekeeper, but it seems like when I am really tense, like after a long church meeting, I have to come home and putter...put things away, sweep the kitchen, and generally bug anyone else in house by saying "how can you just sit there when this place is such a mess???" BUT, when I am relaxed I can live with messes a lot easier. I must be really relaxed these days.
Kind of reminds be about how I live my life and how I go about my ministry. When I tense up, take on too much, and feel like all of the responsibility of all that I am and all that I do is mine, I start trying to take control of everything in my world--I clench my fists and make it through, but not too joyously. And when I am well rested and relaxed, when I can just go with what is happening and allow other people to help and do my best to have a grateful heart, since God is the author of all joy, then, by golly, my hands open up, and I can live with a little bit of chaos.
I think the UMC will continue to have trouble with things like the emergent conversation because too many of us UMCers are experts at control---that really is, some would say, what the purpose of the Book of Discipline is---not so much connexion, but control. What one little thing can I do to let folks be okay with some of the chaos and messiness of this postmodern culture we are all wandering about in...knowing that like a messy kitchen, it can yield pretty tasty treats...or something like that...